When my wife informed me that we were pregnant with our second child I was elated, overjoyed, and scared. Of course the excitement, overjoy, and elation was coming from having the opportunity to have another child to love and raise. For those of you who have not had children, believe me when I tell you it is awesome being a parent.
What I am scared about – or at least thoughtful of – is the amount of things that my wife and I did while she was pregnant and then during the newborn phase of our last pregnancy and childbirth. Just the little things like my wife having to wear heavy stockings to help blood circulation in legs. I forgot all about that. Another thing I forgot about was the wedge pillow she used to hold her belly up when she slept.
Although I’m excited about having a new child, I’m not necessarily looking for the increased workload around that house that is going to come my way. Here’s a partial list of things I remember having to do that I’ll be doing again plus some…
- Lifting things – this now includes our 2 year old daughter, it also includes my wifes laptop bad when she comes and goes from work.
- Leg messages on the fly – this is especially the case when I’m on a mission to get something else done and my wife asks me for a leg or foot message – talk about contribution and thwarted intention all mixed into one event.
- Honey, can you get me water? – this is especially the case after I just sat down for the 10th time getting other things. Why can’t my wife remember to get her own water? Oh yes, now I remember – pregnant brain. Honey, I’d love to get you water.
- Turning the bedroom fan off and on throughout the night depending on which hot cold cycle my wife is on.
- Washing baby bottles, cleaning breast pump bottles, warming milk, puree foods.
- Getting up every few hours to rock and sing back to sleep the little one as my wife is too tired to do it. She does have a lot to do with breast feeding and recovering from being pregnant and giving birth.
- Swaddling the little one in a swaddling/receiving blanket.
- Burping – oh yes burping over the shoulder – hopefully that is all over the shoulder. We were very fortunate with our first child as she did not spit up much.
- White noise
I’m sure I’ll add to this list as time goes along. If you see something I forgot please send me a note about it.